Many times, I hear people say “I don’t want to live anymore, I am just fed up.” Those who understand the purpose of life and avoid nihilism completely will never utter these words.
Life is always full of ups and downs, as well as obstacles, miseries, despondency and many other constraints. You have to pass through this vicious cycle and in this way only, you acquire mental strength to become stronger to lessen the gravity of distress so as to enjoy a happy life. The intelligence quotient, emotional and spiritual quotients decide the character of a person. Happiness quotient is also equally important.
Your happiness quotient is derived from a mathematical expression of platonic love versus conditional love. If this ratio is greater than one, the person is moving towards Self-realisation and he mostly remains happy. But, if the ratio is less than one, then the person is always living in stress and when he is always stressed, he cannot enjoy real happiness. Platonic love has nothing to do with materialistic love or physical love. It is love without hankering to get something in return. In short, it is only to give and in turn perhaps get nothing; it is to be finally engulfed in the continuity of happiness.
Emotional quotient (EQ) is represented by EQ = W x IQ (intelligent quotient). ‘W’ is the present insight of a person, his ability to make a judgement and his capacity to understand others. Understanding others is very important to derive happiness in life. If you fail in these activities, then your life will be like dead wood because your happiness is not something that comes from within; it is dependent on external circumstances and their effect on you.
You can understand others very well, if your emotional quotient is high and again this can be represented by a mathematical value in binary digit, that is, 0, 1. Zero represents absence of these qualities that are stated above and One represents the presence of these qualities fully.
You should not misunderstand the spiritual quotient to be present only in those who are sages, monks, and priests. Even an ordinary individual can have a high spiritual quotient. No sooner than you attained to the maximum spiritual quotient possible and also have high emotional quotient, you will definitely experience happiness in life. Needless to say, people with high EQ and SQ, will be always believers of platonic love. They sacrifice their own comfort and ensure other’s happiness. They are always ready to extend co-operation for the sake of common benefit. It might not be easy to cultivate platonic love; neither in your character, consciousness or your nervous system. But if you do cultivate it, it is bound to energise you with abundant positivity which comes from methodical and regular practice of continuously being mindful of others’ welfare. For example, if a person has met with an accident and if someone extends help to the victim even though he is completely a stranger and takes him to the hospital despite any nuisance value, and subsequentially ensures his recovery, then he shows his platonic love because he does not expect anything in return. It was an act of compassion that came straight from the heart.
There are many examples of those who have spent a major portion of their lives in simply bringing a smile to another’s face. They were always happy. No one could ever find them in a distressed state. So, extend your love with compassion; show love and share love and in this way, you become happy perpetually很多时候，我听到人们说：“我不想活了，我真是受够了。”然而一个懂得生活真谛并且和虚无主义不沾边的人是绝对不会说出这样的话的。
人生总是伴随着起起落落，还有挫折，痛苦，绝望等许多逆境。你必须渡过这些难关，“苦其心智”是你唯一能够获得一颗更加强大的内心的方法，只有这样你才能够在生活中更加从容的面对痛苦，从而获得幸福的生活。情商，智商，以及情操决定了一个人的性格。除此之外，“幸福商”也同样重要。
你的“幸福商”是由一个数学表达式计算得到的，它就是柏拉图式之爱与有条件的爱的比值。如果这个比值大于一，那这个人会更加遵从自己内心的领悟并且在大多数时候都能保持快乐。反之，如果这个比值小于一，那么这个人会一直生活在压力之下并且总是感觉紧张不安，从而无法享受真正的快乐。柏拉图式之爱与现实中的物质之爱并没有关联。它是一种付出不求回报的爱。简而言之，这种爱的给予也许获得不了任何回报；它也将最终转变为持续的快乐。
EQ=W x IQ（智商）是情商的表达式。‘W’ 代表的是一个人即时的领悟，也就是他判断是非和理解他人的能力。理解他人对于在生活中获得快乐是非常重要的。如果你不能够做到这一点，那你的生活便如死了的树木，因为你的快乐并不来源于你的内心，而是由外界环境以及外物对于你的影响决定的。
如果你拥有高情商的话，你就可以很好的理解他人。同样的，这种能力可以用二进制中的0和1进行表示。“0”代表缺乏上述这种能力，“1”则表示这种能力的完全呈现。
你不能走进这样的误区：只有圣人，和尚和牧师才与情操有关。其实即使是一介匹夫依旧可以拥有高尚的情操。当你获得你所可能达到的最高尚的情操并且拥有高情商的同时，你一定会在生活中经历快乐。自不必说，拥有高情商和高尚情操的人一定会是柏拉图式之爱的信奉者。他们牺牲自己的利益去确保他人的快乐。他们时刻准备用自身行动配合公众利益。也许培养柏拉图式之爱会很难；无论对于你的性格，意识以及神经系统。但是如果你确实培养了这种能力，你会从合理的并且持续的为他人着想中获得大量的积极性所带来的“正能量”。比如说，如果有一个人遭遇了意外事故，一个陌生人在不考虑任何医疗费用的情况下将他送去了医院，并且在后来确保了他的康复，这个人就表达了他的柏拉图式之爱，因为他不求任何回报。这是一种内心恻隐之心的直接表达。
有很多人在大部分的生活时间里，习惯简单的用一个微笑示人。这些人总是快乐的。没有人会发现他们正处于一个痛苦的状态。因此，用你的同情心扩大你的爱；以这种方式表达和分享你的爱，那么你会变得永远快乐
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